the everyday

katewadkins:

Feels appropriate for Kathleen’s amazing zine on grief and loss to show up on my dashboard after Erica’s shocking, untimely passing. Rest in peace, Erica. We love and miss you.

page 14 from the worst: A Compilation Zine on Grief and Loss.  Talks about radical response to death and loss, + how to support someone who is grieving. (click image to go to printable pdf)

[image description: a cut n paste zine page from the worst #1: A Compilation Zine on Grief and Loss. Text reads:

“Circle what you think you might need:

• for me to come and hold you
• for me to stay outside your door but play you some music
• for me to play music for you inside your room
• for me to ask you questions
• for me to just be near and be silent
• for me to hold your hand while you call your other family
• to talk about the rest of the family
• to go outside and scream
• to talk about anything but this death
• to get away from here
• go to a movie
• distraction
• acknowledgment
• some kind of ceremony
• to get the rest of the roommates out of the house
• to get the rest of the roommates to stop giving you uncomfortable looks
• to get people to stop trying to cheer you up
• to tell everyone else that this is the anniversary day
• to tell you that all the mixed things you feel are okay
• to tell you the things i love about you
• to tell you that this is the worst thing you’ll ever know
• to tell you that i want to know everything. it is not a burden.

circle what you think you might need. or write more. i want to be here for you. i want to be your friend”.]

(via wehavethingstolookforwardto)